I have always wanted to pursue my passions.
I have always wanted to have a creative outlet that allowed me to share my passions with others.
I have always wanted to have my own business.
However, I am not married and I do not have children.
You may wonder what one has to do with the other.
Inadvertently, I found that one greatly (for some unknown reason) impacts the other.When I began tossing around the idea of turning my passions into the business that I had always dreamed of having, there was a lot to consider.
I was confident that I had the talent. I have been painting for along as I could hold a paint brush.
I was confident that I knew how to run a business. I had been doing that for years for someone else. Those weren’t my worries at all. My biggest worries were time and money.I worked full time running someone else’s business and, even though that job wasn’t my passion, I needed the income I earned there to pay the bills. I was solely responsible for every bill from my mortgage payment to my phone bill so even cutting back my hours wasn’t an option. Being single, I didn’t have a spouse’s income to fall back on. For the time being, I had no choice but to try and make working full time fit with starting my business and that led me directly to my other obstacle; time.How on earth could I ever grow a successful business while working full time? Where would I find the time and energy to work all day at one job and then come home and spend all evening trying to start and grown my business?
I felt overwhelmed even trying to sort it all out in my head. I needed some advice and encouragement. Not knowing any other single women who were small business owners, I turned to the internet and began searching. That is when I discovered that wanting to start a business and not being married and not having children apparently makes in the minority.
I found an overwhelming amount of blogs about women starting and owning small businesses and it was fantastic! I was so excited to learn how other women had done it. How had they been able to pursue their passions and work full time? What I found as I dug deeper, was, in fact, they didn’t. Almost every blog I read talked about how they and their spouse had refined their budget so that they could live on one income therefore allowing the writer to pursue her passions.
I was a little discouraged but I was determined to find out how other single women had done it. So, I refined my search and found a few new blogs about single women starting and owning small businesses. There were definitely less of these blogs but there were some. I was so excited to learn how other single women had done it. How had they been able to pursue their passions and work full time? What I found as I dug deeper with these new blogs, was, in fact, they didn’t. Every blog that I found about a single women starting and owning a business were all geared towards single moms and how to work from home. These blogs were a little more accurate about the single part but were definitely not something I could relate to since I didn’t have kids. They spoke to a very specific group of women who had very different needs (and all that I found had other sources of income to fall back on).
I couldn’t find even one blog about a woman who was single, with no kids, who worked full time and successfully juggled that and starting a business. (I am sure there are some out there… I just couldn’t find them).
I felt like I was living the words of the John Mayer song Speak For Me…
Show me something I can be
Play a song that I can sing
Make me feel as I am free
Someone come speak for me
I could find no one who could speak to me. Who could offer advice and support on how I was going to juggle working full time and still find the time and money to pursue my passions.Despite finding no ideas on how to make this dream turn into reality with these obstacles, I plunged in. I won’t lie, it hasn’t been easy.
I still struggle with how to balance working full time with my deep desire to spend all of my time painting, blogging and connecting with all of you.As hard as it has been though, I have to believe that one day, when the time is right, I will be able to tip the scales in the direction that speaks to my heart.
Until then, I do what I can, when I can and pray that I won’t get discouraged when I can’t get done all that I want or feel that I need to.And if the path of my life speaks to your heart because you are there too, I would love to connect with you! Please let me know so that we can encourage each other in our journeys and offer encouragement and advice on how to get it all done 🙂